They say relationships suffer when there is no communication well, that’s right, but not always. The quality and type of communication are. There is no proof of love and commitment if there’s no communication. You would likely break up with someone who keeps quiet when everything is not alright with your relationship.
The truth about long-distance relationships is that it takes a toll on our hearts, and we suffer from the trap of calling or texting first. The solution is not just to glance through an article online but to do what it tells you. The problem now is that most guides online will only give you a swallow explanation of the types of questions you should ask in your long-distance relationship.
I will talk about the questions you can ask your partner if you’re in a long-distance relationship, planning on starting a long-distance relationship, or you met your partner online. Questions that are asked intentionally lead to answers.
If you ask the questions stated here, you will be amongst the 10% who enjoy long-distance relationships. Here are 20 questions to ask in a long-distance relationship.
These questions can unveil your partner’s true intentions and motive for accepting a long-distance relationship with you.
- What are your goals and expectations for our relationship in the long term? Asking this question will make them think deeper if they want to stay or just want to have fun and waste your time. You should also answer this question because you will know if you will remain in a relationship where you can’t have physical touch.
- Do you think this relationship will work out? Your decision about your relationship is powerful because you have to choose to do something for it to work. Relationships don’t work haphazardly
- How do you envision our future together?
You must know if you’re part of your partner’s plan for the future so you won’t waste your life.
- Are there any special concerns and insecurities you have about our relationship?
- Are there any important events or milestones you would like us to prioritize and celebrate together, even if we’re physically apart?
- How can we support each other’s personal growth and independence while being in a long-distance relationship?
- Should we establish any boundaries or expectations to maintain trust and respect?
The next questions you should be asking relate to your excitement and the fun things you would like to do with your partner present or not.
8. Where can we go for a vacation if we get together?
9.What are your phobias? Why?
10. Would you kiss a snake(black mamba) to save your best friend?
11. Do you love hiking?
12. What can get you in the mood?
I understand that this can sound a bit weird to ask your partner, but you have to know what sets them in the mood so you will know the boundary of your physical touch and words.
These next questions are focused on your partner’s character, which is very important because you would know what you’re in for. Ask your partner these personal questions to know how they feel when people try to intrude.
13. What is your turn-off in a relationship?
14. What is your temperament?
15. Are you religious?
16. How do you handle sadness and disappointment?
17. What do you believe about money?
Finance is a topic most couples ignore because of ignorance and fear. You have to know the level of education your partner has about money. Money is not everything we know, but money will solve most of your problems.
You should ask your partner questions about family and relatives. Family, they say, is very important. But if your partner doesn’t like the idea of family, you should consider leaving that relationship.
18. What makes your family special?
19. What do your parents think about what you are today
20. Do you like children? How many?
Children are a blessing from God, and if you don’t like them, you might be cursed (just joking).
21. Can you give your all to your family?
Sacrifice is the apex expression of love. And if your partner cannot sacrifice for their family, don’t you think they will when you build a family together?
The questions can continue, but you must know the important and basic questions to ask your partner in a long-distance relationship. I know you get carried away by your daily activities and sometimes forget you’re in a relationship. The best thing to do is to agree on the best time to contact your partner and how long you intend to converse.
Setting a specific time to talk to your partner will gradually migrate into your daily routine and help keep your relationship strong and healthy.
- How do I keep the conversation going in a long-distance relationship?
I understand it is hard to keep a conversation going smoothly when you can’t see your partner’s body language and make eye contact. However, discussing your daily activities is the best way to keep a conversation going in a long-distance relationship. In addition, when you tell your experience to your partner, you create a room for openness and honesty on how they feel about their jobs and how they spend their day.
- When is the right time to break up from a long-distance relationship?
The right time to break up from a long-distance relationship is when you have communicated your intentions to your partner. Usually, couples break up without letting the other party know that they are no longer together, and when they get to meet again, they start feeling jealous seeing their partner with someone else. You should have let your partner know that you’re no longer interested in the relationship and make you both agree to split. Breakup when you have made your intentions clear to your partner.
- When is the right time to ask the questions?
As much as you believe these questions will create room for honesty and deeper connection, you must know when to ask them. Not everyone likes to be questioned; they often feel insecure when the questions sound interrogative. Therefore, you must find the right moment to ask the question, aligning with your discussion. You mean no harm, but the wrong question can ruin your relationship. Read about how to have a long-distance relationship without stress to find out more about long-distance relationships.
- Should I worry about loyalty?
You should be loyal in your long-distance relationship because this will keep your relationship healthy. Being loyal doesn’t mean you lose your sense of reasoning. You have made a decision to be loyal to your partner, and you are ready to stay that way. You must see other attractive and good-looking people, but you have to remain with the person you’re with. There is no guarantee anywhere that you won’t see someone you like. You just have to control yourself and remain faithful to your partner.
- Can silence cause a breakup in a long-distance relationship?
Absolutely. The major factor in breakups is silence which is not explained. You can be mute for some days, but you must communicate with your partner to let them know what made you go off for a while. Don’t zone out when people care about you.
Making a clear and defined decision is the best way to make your long-distance relationship work. Anything can make you separate from your partner, but before this happens, you have to discuss the change with your partner and decide if both parties can stay 6-8 months without seeing each other.
The most common cause of breakup in a long-distance relationship is a lack of decision and effective communication. You can have a blissful relationship if you decide and communicate your plans effectively. No matter how busy you are, you will always make time for the things you love, including your partner.
Finally, your questions will determine if you will enjoy or suffer. A rich phrase says, if you seek, you will find. You have to ask to know. Relationships don’t work by folding your hands. You have to work to make it beautiful. Everything worthwhile is built intentionally. Don’t leave your relationship to chance.
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